He is an intimidating man
I am here to tell you that, unless you’re having a very thorough exit interview with these dudes, you don’t have access to that kind of information — especially if they disappear. And when you say that they’re intimidated, you’re subtly putting the onus on them: “I’m fine — they’re just intimidated by my greatness.” I’d like to bring to your attention the hard undertone to that, and it could be the thing that sends the guys running.He could have left because he lost his job, or his dog died, or the Steelers had a 4-game losing streak. It’s also disempowering to you, because when the issue is on them, there’s nothing can do about it.I knew, living in a blue-collar town that dating men local to me would be a challenge, but I gave it a shot anyway.He was “impressed” with me at first, but then he had to face questions like what could he do for me?I’m still wrestling with this and recently turned down a date with a man in a similar situation (less educated, less worldly, less credit, you get the idea…).I don’t take all the blame here as I do want a strong man, and he wasn’t, but I do want to make sure the next guy can’t resist me even if my list intimidates him.
Every person is different, and although these are traits that these men pointed out, other men might find these qualities attractive.
A scared Lance afraid of who he could have been with me.
He was no doubt intimidated by me, so I’m still learning how to make a man feel good about who he is and all that he has accomplished.
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